It takes a great deal of courage to stand up to our enemies, but just as much to stand up to our friends.
-Albus Dumbledore, Harry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone
I’ve been thinking about this quote a lot lately. Why can it be so hard to stand up to our friends? Is it because we’re afraid of losing them? Is it because we don’t know how?
I think it can be even harder to stand up to friends than enemies. Enemies have probably hurt you time and time again, so you have more motivation to act. But when standing up to a friend, you have to walk a fine line between standing your ground and not pushing too hard. You want to do what you think is right, but you don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings and ruin the friendship.
I have a hard time standing up to people in general, but standing up to my friends is especially difficult. Sometimes they make decisions I don’t think are healthy, and yet I don’t feel like I have the right to tell them what to do. But isn’t protection part of the job description for a good friend? Doesn’t everyone want someone who will always look out for them?
Perhaps the best way to stand up to friends is to make it clear that you are doing it because you care. Not because you’re being judgmental or controlling, but because you really want to help. That’s something I’ll work more on this year, as well as gaining the confidence to implement such actions.